The bells are ringing

I apologize to my faithful readers, which is one or two (thanks homer and rican), for not posting, but I've been extremely busy at work and haven't had a chance to write.
The post today hits close to the home front.
I have three daughters (the most beautiful girls in the world) and every thing I go anywhere I always get looks, some look at me and smile, and others look at me and shake their heads. I always get stopped and am asked about them. I proudly say that I have twin daughters and a new daughter that has taken another piece of my heart (as I write this I think I wanna cry, but let's move on). After the initial pleasentries, the next remark always follows "I bet you can't wait until they get married, huh?" I think to myself, "I don't wanna think that far ahead, and I certainly can't picture them with a guy." This was always my thought after such comment.
I decided to ask my wife as to why people felt compelled to make this comment. I always thought that people would say this (now the next part is just Hispanic thinking, or maybe I'm wrong and it's the way all fathers think) with the thinking that I'm gonna hate all the guys they bring home, and how I will stand by the door with my shotgun scaring them away (which I will most likely do). My wife says (in her infinite wisdom and she is clearly smarter than I am) "duh, they say this because it is an American custom that the father of the bride pays for the wedding, therefore you will have to pay for three weddings." And just like that it hits me square in the face. I say "you mean to tell me that just as I am paying off my student loans, I will go in further debt paying for a wedding for twin daughters and possible another one two years after that?" My head just spins of all the money that will be spent. If there is a female reader out there you're probably thinking "what an ass, he should be happy spending money on his daughters," to that I say that I am happy to give my money away to my daughters, but I sure as hell don't wanna spend it on a wedding that is with a guy that I will probably hate. If they wanted to go on a trip around the world (for educational purposes that is) and I had the money, I would gladly give it to them. But why spend it on something created by an industry that just wants to put me in debt for the rest of my life.
My solution is this, I will simply use my Hispanic heritage to implement my plan. My plan is that where I come from the guy is responsible for paying for the wedding that is supposed to make his future wife happy. He is trying to impress my daughters, and to some extent me. I'm not trying to impress my daughters (because me being a dad is impressive enough) and I'm certainly not trying to impress the guy who is taking my little girls away from me.
When I got married, I took care of financing the wedding, granted it was a small wedding, but who said it has to be huge for it to be special.
If the guy takes that initiative, then it will make it worth while for me to help them out as much as I can.
To the guys out there, be a fuckin man and take responsibility for this, don't make the father of the bride be the man again, it's time for you to step up and take care of business, the way a man is supposed to.
The gold nugget is to you ladies : if you haven't been married, find a guy that is willing to take the responsibility for the wedding as a man is supposed to, if he can't take responsibility for this then you may wanna reconsider. What I mean by taking care of the wedding is that he should finance most if not all of it. At the same time, don't take advantage of the hold you have on our balls and demand the most expensive of everything. You don't really need a dress that costs 10K, you don't need a ring that costs 10K and you certainly don't need a wedding that is the cost of a house. If both the bride and groom take this advice, you will make the parents very, very happy.